How to connect intimately with your ADHD partner

One of the gifts of having an ADHD partner is having their passionate spirit, spontaneity, and zest for life rub off on us. Life is exciting with an ADHDer!

When it comes to connecting with our ADHD partner, it's important to remember WHY we fell in love with them. If I had to bet, it wasn't just their charm that won you over. It was also their need for physical touch, stimulating conversations, that immediate "I found my soulmate" feeling, and of course the mindblowing sex. 

For ADHDers, it's challenging to stick with routines and sameness. This applies to how they connect with their partner. This is why it's important to ask lots of questions on a regular basis so you are up to date on all their needs. Change means growth and growth means transformation. Don't be intimidated by your ADHDer's commitment to personal development!

Here are some questions to ask your ADHD partner:

• what did you love about our last conversation? why? 
• what spot on your body are you most excited about me touching? why?
• what have you been learning about lately? 
• what is your favorite self-care or spiritual practice right now? why?
• what emotions have you been feeling in the past few days? 

Touch is VERY powerful when it comes to communicating with ADHDers, especially men and boys. If you touch your man while asking him a question or a favor, he is 99% more likely to follow through if you're touching his arm and looking him in the eyes. If you're asking him a question while he's watching TV or emptying the dishwasher, your expectation should be that you're invisible. This is one of the many examples of why I incorporate Alison Armstrong's men vs. female communication types in our ADHD course. ADHD is much different for men and women!

It is also imperative that you know the types of ADHD your partner has AND their Human Design. To learn everything your doctor, therapist, tantra coach, and past ADHD coach hasn't taught you to get REAL results in your relationships, check out our ADHD in Relationships course.